Don’t Forget About You



dont-forget-about-youGrowing up it seems most everyone is taught not to be selfish- whether it’s a child being told to share their toys or an older sibling being asked to take their younger one wherever they go.

Some people may grow up with this quality and others may just let it slip through their finger tips as they get older. Because of this I am able to do a job I love and be selfless and help many women across the country.

I thank my parents everyday for this lesson, for being taught that being selfish is not the proper way to behave, and that putting others needs and feelings in front of your own most of the time is the way to be in the world we live in. But that doesn’t mean to forget about yourself. Don’t forget about you. 

Think about it, at what point in life did someone flip this lesson upside down for you and make you think, “it’s okay to be selfish sometimes“? No, I’m not talking about selfish as in stealing the last piece of pizza or some other nonsense; I’m talking about self-care, taking care of your mental health and your physical health in front of someone else and their needs. The answer to this is different for everyone but nonetheless one of the most important lessons one can encounter. And one of the most important realizations a person [traveler] can have.

I have recently begun to accept this [don’t forget about you], throughout my travels. Having to be selfless 24/7; wanting to better a chapter and the women in it, has made me realize that throughout that time on the road – if time isn’t given to you, you’ll lose yourself. So I have vowed to myself: that I will not forget about me. [You should do the same.]

Take time out of your day to focus on you and your needs. Whether that’s a spinach salad, a thirty minute nap or a thirty minute run- don’t be afraid to tell the people around you ‘no.’ 

In college it was as simple as turning off my phone, closing my blinds and taking a nap. Today, it’s not that simple; even taking a moment to myself involves leaving my work phone on loud and being prepared for something you wouldn’t imagine possible. But the best part of all of this is; I’m finding passion that I never knew I had. I find writing relaxing, practicing calligraphy and taking the time to maintain my personal relationships I had when starting my job.

Basically, my point is: If what you are doing does not contribute to your overall health and well-being, be selfish; but be selfish in the right way and do the things that you love.

I am fortunate enough to do a job I love that has only made me scratch the surface of lessons I am able to encounter about not only this country but myself.  Being selfless is not a bad thing as long as you know when you can be selfish. If you don’t take care of yourself, are you really in the right state of mind to be selfless?


To the girls I didn’t know I couldn’t live without…

Alpha Xi Delta has given me a lot, starting with my home chapter at Florida Atlantic University. I thought I had it all figured out, my childhood best friend was a chapter sister, I found my maid of honor and my perfect little sister – plus those 140 other sisters  that impacted my life one way or another throughout my college career.

But the women who have truly shown me the values of my organization and the most heartsunshine I have ever experienced are women I didn’t even know my life was missing- and ones
in particularly I cannot imagine my life without. My rocks. My team. My travel Sisters.

When you’re on the road it’s easy to lose sight of your end goal. As a traveler it is important to know that you are not the only one going through the hardships you may encounter. You’ll run into members, campus faculty, and locals who do not support your overall mission. This is where, as a road warrior, you need to remember you always have that group of women (or men) pushing you to do better. To Be Better. You may question if you are good enough, if you are meant for this job – but the best part about having the team that I have is that their not afraid to tell it how it is.

In just the three short months since we have been working together, they have taught me:

  1. Be yourself: It’s easy to lose yourself on the road. Being on the clock 24/7 means you have to be ready for anything but having an outlet to turn to at any point of the day with these women is what keeps me sane. You wouldn’t be a part of your organization if you weren’t yourself, acknowledge that this experience is allowing you to grow and realize your full potential.
  2. See heartsunshine in everyone – because believe it or not, it’s there.
  3. The meaning of fraternity is AMAZING: obviously this was something that I already believed because I wouldn’t be traveling if I didn’t think so. But I don’t think I have ever been shown this quite as much as these women have shown me in the last three months.
  4. To speak my mind – it will only make you stronger. You’ll regret the times that you didn’t tell the ones you care about them that you do, or that it’s okay to be upset. Whatever is on your mind is for a reason and deserved to be shared.And finally,
  5. Never be afraid of meeting new people: because you never know if they will end up becoming your best friends, your confidants or even a bridesmaids.

Because of these eight other women: I am stronger, more independent, more confident and more loved. If you asked what kind of things I thought I would gain from traveling the U.S. alone, I would have never expected it to be relationship like these.

And to think, again, it’s only been three months but it feels like a lifetime.

Thank you, Alpha Xi Delta.