Growing up it seems most everyone is taught not to be selfish- whether it’s a child being told to share their toys or an older sibling being asked to take their younger one wherever they go.
Some people may grow up with this quality and others may just let it slip through their finger tips as they get older. Because of this I am able to do a job I love and be selfless and help many women across the country.
I thank my parents everyday for this lesson, for being taught that being selfish is not the proper way to behave, and that putting others needs and feelings in front of your own most of the time is the way to be in the world we live in. But that doesn’t mean to forget about yourself. Don’t forget about you.
Think about it, at what point in life did someone flip this lesson upside down for you and make you think, “it’s okay to be selfish sometimes“? No, I’m not talking about selfish as in stealing the last piece of pizza or some other nonsense; I’m talking about self-care, taking care of your mental health and your physical health in front of someone else and their needs. The answer to this is different for everyone but nonetheless one of the most important lessons one can encounter. And one of the most important realizations a person [traveler] can have.
I have recently begun to accept this [don’t forget about you], throughout my travels. Having to be selfless 24/7; wanting to better a chapter and the women in it, has made me realize that throughout that time on the road – if time isn’t given to you, you’ll lose yourself. So I have vowed to myself: that I will not forget about me. [You should do the same.]
Take time out of your day to focus on you and your needs. Whether that’s a spinach salad, a thirty minute nap or a thirty minute run- don’t be afraid to tell the people around you ‘no.’
In college it was as simple as turning off my phone, closing my blinds and taking a nap. Today, it’s not that simple; even taking a moment to myself involves leaving my work phone on loud and being prepared for something you wouldn’t imagine possible. But the best part of all of this is; I’m finding passion that I never knew I had. I find writing relaxing, practicing calligraphy and taking the time to maintain my personal relationships I had when starting my job.
Basically, my point is: If what you are doing does not contribute to your overall health and well-being, be selfish; but be selfish in the right way and do the things that you love.
I am fortunate enough to do a job I love that has only made me scratch the surface of lessons I am able to encounter about not only this country but myself. Being selfless is not a bad thing as long as you know when you can be selfish. If you don’t take care of yourself, are you really in the right state of mind to be selfless?